Joe/Mom Day 7

  • Adventure around the city trying to get a police report. In the end I had to call 911 and there were already two reports about the event.
  • Went to a couple of medical stores to look for things to help mom move around and in the house.
  • Finally met Lourdes. On the one hand I feel for her in that she just wanted to help mom get out of her depression and dark apartment. But there are better ways than buying a house with her. And having mom pay for it instead of splitting it and having mom sign a POA.
  • Luckily it is easy to cancel a POA( at least here in Washington.
  • Got the username/passwords to get into the account including the east coast bank account. OMG. Mom and/or Lourdes have been emptying the account every month for 3-4 years. Not sure if Lourdes was spending the money or if she was using the money for mom but mind is blown and not in a good way.
  • Lourdes refuses to come to the house and said mom could have everything in it. Still haven’t opened the doors, as I would like to keep the house clean as possible to sell.
  • Which is the only way I can see mom and Lourdes getting out of this mess…
  • …however, moms smoking in her bathroom isn’t helping. And also remembered how difficult it was to sell the other house because mom wouldn’t leave and would scour at people.
  • The same for the home care that is coming on Wednesday. I thought it was a different company, but it’s the same one we used for day. The one she called the police on. And I had to turn around after my two hour commute to go back home.
  • Mom has not changed after seven years. As Lourdes is telling me her story, it was almost word for word the situation that I was in and why I had to leave. I going to be affected by this again, but not as deep as before. I’m not going to blame myself for the situation and not being able to fix it. And I’m not going to stay around and take the abuse especially if she doesn’t want me here. And I’m not going to stay and watch her destroy herself. I can just hope and pray that one day, she will be ready to see what she has become and ready to ask and accept help.