Have you remained close friends with any former lovers? If not, would you like to have done so? Continue reading
Do you think saying “I love you” to someone means more or less to you than it does to other people? What about having sex?
When was the last time you had so much fun making love that you laughed out loud? Are your fondest memories of lovemaking from times that were playful or serious?
When did you find out the most about what pleases you sexually and what was it that you learned? Have you discovered more through long-standing relationships or through short periods of intimacy with different lovers?
In what joint activities do you support and help your partner while he or she runs the show, and in what activities does your partner do this for you?
Have you ever been in love not so much with the person you were seeing but rather with your image of that person and the life the two of you could have together? If so, were you aware of this at the time?
Five years from now, in what ways do you think your relationship will have improved or deteriorated?
Do you find particular environmental undercurrents especially stimulating sexually – for example, danger, opulence, or formality? If so, do you ever try to create situations that contain these elements? What is the most sensuous, erotic, setting you can imagine for love making?
You are beginning an exciting romance and learn that your partner, who badly wants children, would almost certainly leave you if he or she discovered that you were unable to have kids. If you were almost sure that you could never have a child, would you try to hide the fact for awhile or reveal it right away
Do you seek advice about romantic issues more or less than about other things in your life? When you are in love, is outside opinion worthless because your feeling are so personal, or worth more because it is so easy for you to lose perspective? How much do you trust your insights about what is best for someone else?