April 2008 Archives

1. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE  - I know nothing about the origins of my name except that Joseph means God Will Increase in Hebrew, Lamont is French, and Rogers means "Famous Spear".

2. WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU CRIED - This last weekend.

3. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING  - No, my handwriting is so sloppy that I should have been a doctor.

4. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT? - Turkey or Ham.

5. DO YOU HAVE KIDS?  Nope.

6. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU?  I would hope so but I'm not sure.

7. DO YOU USE SARCASM A LOT?  Not a lot.

8. DO YOU STILL HAVE YOUR TONSILS - Yes.

9. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP? - Maybe...Probably not.

10. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CEREAL?  I don't really have a favorite, just whatever mood I'm in when I go shopping.  Last box was Cinnamon Life.

11. DO YOU UNTIE YOUR SHOES WHEN YOU TAKE THEM OFF?  Nope.

12. DO YOU THINK YOU ARE STRONG?   I am weak in so many ways.

13. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM?  No particular favorites. Last scoop of ice cream was Kahlua Mocha Cream from Mitchell's Ice Cream

14. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT PEOPLE?  Eyes or breast (I'll be honest, I'm a guy)

15. RED OR PINK?  Red

16. WHAT IS THE LEAST FAVORITE THING ABOUT YOURSELF?  I really hate my toes, even more than my small gut

17. WHO DO YOU MISS THE MOST? I rather not say.

18. DO YOU WANT EVERYONE TO SEND THIS BACK TO YOU?  Why not.

19. WHAT COLOR PANTS AND SHOES ARE YOU WEARING?  Right now in in my underwear and socks underneath the blankets of my bed.  Probably too much info.

20. WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU ATE? Just had some chocolate chip cookies.

21. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW?  Watching Battlestar Galatica

22. IF YOU WHERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOR WOULD YOU BE? Grande Mocha.

23. FAVORITE SMELLS?  Jasmine; Cut Grass; Fresh Baked Bread

24. WHO WAS THE LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE?  I called my employee, Sephora, to find out if I need to come in early tomorrow. (I do)

25. DO YOU LIKE THE PERSON WHO SENT THIS TO YOU?  Yeah, she's alright.  J/K she is probably the closest thing to a sister that I have.

26. FAVORITE SPORTS TO WATCH?  Baseball and football.

27. HAIR COLOR?   Black.

28. EYE COLOR?  Black.

29. DO YOU WEAR CONTACTS?  Nope.

30. FAVORITE FOOD?   No particular favorites come to mind.  I have been eating more McDonald Fries than usual lately

31. SCARY MOVIES OR HAPPY ENDINGS?  Happy Endings.  Doesn't every guy like happy endings.

32. LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED? In a theater?  In Burges...."YOU"RE A FUCKING INANAMITE OBJECT!!!"

33. WHAT COLOR SHIRT ARE YOU WEARING? No shirt right now, just a black mink blanket with a tiger on it.

34. SUMMER OR WINTER?  Summer

35. HUGS OR KISSES?   I'll take both please.  I could also use some cuddling, spooning, and some flat out fucking

36. FAVORITE DESSERT?  No particular favorites right now. Although the "Chokoreto Keki" that I had at Yoshi's in S.F. was surprisingly good.

37. MOST LIKELY TO RESPOND?  I don't think anyone will respond.

38. LEAST LIKELY TO RESPOND?  Everyone

39. WHAT BOOK ARE YOU READING NOW?  Last book read: Road of the Patriarch by R.A. Salvatore

40. WHAT IS ON YOUR MOUSE PAD? Microsoft Wireless Laser Mouse 8000 = No mouse pad needed.

41. WHAT DID YOU WATCH ON T. V. LAST NIGHT? Sunday Night, I watched American Dad

42. FAVORITE SOUND? No particular favorite.  Although the intro to "Tell Me When To Go" by E40 always picks me up a bit.

43. ROLLING STONES OR BEATLES?   Rolling Stones.

44. WHAT IS THE FARTHEST YOU HAVE BEEN FROM HOME?   Bellingham, WA

45. DO YOU HAVE A SPECIAL TALENT?  Ruining a good thing?

46. WHERE WERE YOU BORN?  Dunn, North Carolina

47. WHOSE ANSWERS ARE YOU LOOKING FORWARD TO GETTING BACK?   I'd be surprised to get any answers back

Well, the good news is that I matched last years birthday card count.

And I got cake from Ambrosia Bakery.

And I was able to fake my way through the day.

Tomorrow I get to give a deposition about my car accident from last July.  Not sure how much more I can add to "A dump truck backed into my car and almost ran over me".  I guess I'll find out tomorrow.

To be honest, I'm not expecting much from this upcoming year.  Next year when I hit 35, then I can have the midlife crisis.

But maybe this is what I need, not to have any expectations at all.  All the shit that happens to you, good or bad, usually happens when you least expect it.

Deposition tomorrow; inventory on Saturday and Sunday; Mario Kart on Tuesday.

Here's a picture so I can remind myself what I look like a year from now

Well, after a day of being a chickenshit about the whole issue, I think I just put the final nail in the coffin in regards to the chapter with me and policewoman.

Either that or she can fake the sleeping voice thing as well as I can.

**smacks palm to forehead**

I would be perfectly happy just holing myself up in my room today, and I'm still somewhat considering it.

But I really do have to goto work.  So much to do before inventory.

**sigh**  Chin up; smile on.

So I was in my office with Monica, Amber, and Steve Madonna.  The office had been remodeled and there were new computers and the seating arrangement has been switched.  Monica was now where Amber usually sits; Amber was off to the side; and Steve was to my left.  I was playing with the new monitors and figured out that I could resize them from 19" to 24" and I wondered why no one had told me that.  I remember Rob, the General Manager coming in and me giving him a hug.  And there was a picture of me and Teresa on my computer screen and I was asking Steve a question.

The biggest WTF is Steve Madonna.  Why would Steve be in my dreams?  Don't know why I would think about him or what would have triggered a memory of him.  Of course knowing what I do about Steve, it wouldn't surprise me if he had invented some machine that could allow him to travel through dreams.

And all I can think about is slitting my wrists.

Which is pretty sad, because I have lots to live for.  Except right now I can't see those reasons.

Maybe if I took my head out of the sand, I would be able to see them.

But I can't stop the downward spiral that I feel that I am on.

The one that I am always on.

 

The Plenty of Fish Compatibility Predictor (CP) measures five broad relationship variables that are each essential for building romantic relationships. People don't need to score "high" on each of these characteristics to be in a fulfilling relationship. What's important is how your profile interacts with the profile of a potential romantic partner -- or what is commonly called “chemistry.” Based on decades of empirical research in the social sciences, the CP captures the five key ingredients that can determine whether or not two people have the “right” psychological chemistry. The relationship variables are:

Self-Confidence, or the degree to which a person feels comfortable with him or herself. People that are high in self-confidence tend to be assertive and competent in both their private and public relationships. People that are low in self-confidence tend to be reticent and somewhat anxious.

Family Orientation, or the degree to which a person supports and values the family. People that are family-oriented tend to want or already have children, are very close to their immediate relatives and prefer cooking at home to eating at a restaurant. People that are not family-oriented tend to be individualistic, unconventional and very much enjoy attending parties and social functions.

Self-Control, or the extent to which a person exerts control over various aspects of life. People that are high in self-control tend have strong emotional reactions to things and try to regulate those feelings by micromanaging and attending to specific details. People that are low in self-control are usually relaxed, even-tempered and lenient.

Openness, or the extent to which a person is open to and dependent upon others. People that are high in openness tend to like a wide range of things (e.g., food, music, movies, etc.), in part because they are concerned with pleasing other people. In contrast, people low in openness are very independent and opinionated; they know what they like and aren’t apt to change their opinion.

Easygoingness, or a person’s work ethic and degree of mental flexibility. People that are high in easygoingness are very relaxed, broadminded and unaffected by change. In contrast, people low in easygoingness tend be hardworking, firm, and sometimes inflexible.

IMPORTANT: Before reading your profile, remember that the report is based on generalizations from research on an international validation sample. Some feedback may not apply to your case. For instance, we know that overall those scoring "moderate or high" on Family Orientation tend to either want children soon or are open to the idea in the future. However, this generalization may not be accurate for all moderate and high scorers. Use these results for self-awareness and self-reflection...and hopefully as a conversation piece with other Plenty of Fish members!

Your Chemistry Test Results

Self-Confidence

As someone with moderate self-confidence, you generally feel comfortable interacting with other people. In particular, you find the company of friends comforting and occasionally enjoy meeting new people. You tend to be relaxed in groups, which makes people around you relaxed too. Perhaps because you feel comfortable talking about yourself, others tend to enjoy being around you and perceive you as friendly.
Your social confidence also spills into your personal beliefs about yourself. Although you have several strengths, you tend to acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. However, you sometime regret things you’ve done or said in the past, and occasionally get embarrassed by these things.
When it comes to your professional life, you tend to set moderate to high standards for yourself. Your work performance should provide ample evidence for this. With this and your sociability, friends and colleagues tend to see you as someone who can provide sound advice.

Family Orientation

As someone who is oriented to familial matters, you value the company of family-members and domestic life. If you have children already, you enjoy spending time with them very much and work hard to be a good parent. If you don’t have children, you very much desire having children in the future. And your preference for cooking and entertaining guests at home will likely ease the transition into parenthood.
You take pride in maintaining and cultivating a healthy family and work hard to achieve this. This natural tendency is easily illustrated by your preference for doing things around the house as opposed to going out to clubs and restaurants.
What really sets you apart from people that are low in family orientation is that you know how to manage your frustrations and work well on your own. This means that you are well-equipped to manage a family without letting all the work that is involved wear you down. However, as someone with strong family values, all the work that is involved in maintaining a tidy home and well-stocked kitchen might occasionally make it difficult for you to finish everything that you need to do.

Self-Control

The self-control personality dimension captures the way in which a person regulates and directs him or herself. Being low in self-control can be both good and bad. Occasionally people may be compelled to follow their intuitions and give in to their temptations, and your degree of self-control makes this likely to happen more often than not. This can be good in circumstances where being relaxed and open are important. However, in situations where it is necessary to be focused and careful, you might find that you do or say things that may be inappropriate.
As someone who exerts little control over your actions, you may find that you commit social blunders that might offend other people and get yourself in trouble. For example, if you’re given responsibility to work on a project that requires close attention to detail, you may be likely to overlook important details because you have difficulty staying focused. Consequently, you might feel more comfortable delegating such tasks to other people who are more detail oriented. Being able to recognize such characteristics in yourself and having more detail-oriented people do such tasks could be an effective way to manage your own stress level.
Low self-control may diminish your effectiveness at work. Acting too relaxed can make it difficult for you to focus on projects that require organized sequences of steps or stages. Thus, your ability to accomplish may be inconsistent. Indeed, it’s possible that you might be criticized periodically for being unreliable or unable to “stay within the lines.” Nonetheless, you may still experience many short-lived pleasures and never be thought of as boring.

Openness

As someone moderate in openness, you have an appreciation for art and nature, but are also down to earth and realistic. On the one hand, it’s likely that you are fond of music and art, and on the other hand, enjoy and appreciate things that have a clear point and some sort of practical utility. Additionally, you have a certain degree of awareness of your own emotions that is, you tend to notice when you’re feeling a particular way and take those feelings into account when making decisions. You tend to think in both abstract ways—in terms of metaphors—and logically. Therefore, in your work and free time, you enjoy activities that get your “creative juices” flowing but are also able to keep your mind on the primary objective of the task at hand.
Your tendency to be both open-minded, yet realistic is generally quite advantageous. For instance, when there are no clear rules about how to approach a particular problem, your openness makes it easy for you to identify new ways to solve problems that might not be very obvious to people that are not as open as you are. However, because you are also realistic-minded, you are able follow-rules quite easily. This combination makes it easy for you to excel in your work because you are able to “think outside the box” while still being able to keep your eyes on “the big picture.”

Easygoingness

Easygoingness refers to one's ability to relax. Based on your score, you appear to “take things as they come” and enjoy having a good time. However, being high in easygoingness also has the potential to produce stress in a number of ways. For example, you may find it difficult to complete tasks thoroughly and efficiently. In this way, being high in easygoingness cannot only make your life difficult, but also the lives of the people around you. Another potential problem with being too high in easygoingness is that it can provide you with gratification in the short-term, but in the long-term provide undesirable consequences.
High easygoingness, even when not seriously destructive, may also diminish your effectiveness at work, for example. You may find it aversive and difficult to put in all the effort that may sometimes be needed to effectively accomplish certain tasks. For this reason, your colleagues might view you as forgetful and unfocused.

How does your personality affect your love life?

Your social competence and charm make it easy for you to get along well with most people. Indeed, it’s self-confidence that allows people to feel comfortable interacting with others without feeling insecure and vulnerable. This should work to your advantage in your romantic life. Your social skills should help make for a pleasant first date by alleviating any nervousness that your partner might have. Over time, the realistic standards that you tend to set for yourself could work well with your partner. That is, by setting realistic goals for yourself and your relationships, your partners should feel less pressure to be someone that they are not.
Given how much you value family life, you probably get along best with people who share your values and beliefs. In fact, it’s likely that you maintain close connections with members of your immediate and distant family. For this reason, you would probably be most satisfied in a romantic relationship with someone who also values domestic life.
Being in a relationship with someone who enjoys going out to parties and staying-up late at night might be fun, at least initially; yet it’s likely that you will find this tiring over time. Thus, it might be easier and more satisfying for you to develop a long-lasting relationship with a person who also enjoys spending time at home and desires starting a family. On first dates, perhaps you might suggest to your partner that the two of you spend a quiet night having dinner at one of your respective homes instead of going out to a restaurant or club.
As someone who is more relaxed than most people, you likely get along with most people quite well. Chances are that your friends and colleagues perceive you as lively, fun to be with, and good-humored. When it comes to romance, you’ll likely be attracted to most people. However, your free-spirited nature might make being in a relationship with a person that is more rigid than you difficult because you might perceive the person as being too uptight and controlling.
Your openness probably makes it easy for you to respect and appreciate people that are different from you. However, you may become frustrated with people that are too unconventional or traditional. Therefore, you may be happiest in serious relationships with people that share both your open-mindedness and realistic nature.